Over the last few weeks my family has had some challenges. My husband was out of the country on business when a hail storm came through. When he returned 10 days later, he discovered that his car was pretty well totaled. The rear windshield was gone, glass was everywhere, the front windshield was cracked, the trunk was soaked, the seats were wet, and dents the size of baseballs were all over it. Insurance was working with us on taking care of the damage, but the adjuster suggested we consider a new vehicle. Handling a month as a single-car family while we waited on repairs may be more than we could handle with three kids.
Honestly… car shopping as a single-car family with three kids was more than I bargained for.
For one week, I spent 90 minutes in the car twice a day simply getting all my kids to and from their schools and my husband to and from work. Add to that going to a car dealership each night after work, getting homework done, cooking, cleaning, and trying to get my writing done, and I was a tired mom!
I’m not going to say we were perfect. Nerves were on edge and we were tired of dealing with the pressure, but it also proved to be a lesson in family ties.
I explained to my kids that a family is like a chain. We all stick together and hold on to each other, and when a link breaks, we pick it up and mend it so the whole thing doesn’t fall apart. If you leave a link weak, the chain won’t be a chain for long.
“When Daddy’s car is broken, we need to work together to make sure we get it fixed so he can keep doing what he needs to do for our family. It’s just like when one of us is sick, we have to be a little less selfish and help them get to feeling better. That’s what family is all about.”
There were still scuffles and fights, and I was still exhausted and stressed, but all in all–my kids were champs.
Though trials like these are never desirable, I think that if we can take the time to make it a learning experience we add a purpose to the pain. Times like these put more things in their lockbox of memories so when times get tough again, and we are forced outside of our comfort zone, we can look back and think–”we made it through THAT, surely we can do THIS.”
The challenges make the family ties just a little bit stronger.