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Jan
2
2012

Pause button aftermath

in Life Lessons, Parenting

Photo by Acuzio on www.sxc.hu

Today is the last day before the kids head back to school. It is jam packed with household chores and last-minute fun for us.  It is also the last day of my pause button experiment.

It has been a good break. I took an entire month off from writing my book so I could really focus on the Christmas season. I spent lots of quality time with my kids, with my husband, with friends, and with myself. I must admit, the pause button proved itself very effective.

The break taught me:

1. I have some pretty dang good kids. No, they are not perfect, but they are as well-behaved as I could ever hope. They are willing to help when asked, they are willing to try new things, and they are fun to be around.

2. I have an amazingly awesome husband. The key to getting him to cooperate is for me to communicate. He cannot read my mind. He does not always know when I need a break. He does not know when I am running behind on chores or what needs to be done unless I actually tell him. Who knew?

3. I am pretty okay too. Sure, I get tired and grouchy. I get frustrated by the constant shadow that my 3-year-old provides. I get overwhelmed by laundry and housecleaning, and dish washing, and trash carry out, and… But who doesn’t.

4. About 95% of the world lies. Everyone seems to act like they have it all together when, in fact, they don’t. The first warning sign of a pending explosion is the fake smile and assumption of perfection. No one, and I repeat NO ONE, has a perfect home, perfect spouse, perfect kids, or perfect extended family. No one has a perfect Christmas tree or makes the perfect holiday dinner. There is always room for improvement, and the sooner we admit that about ourselves and see that in other people, the sooner we can stop being so hard on ourselves.

5. Finally, what I learned through this pause button exercise is that even though the roses may irritate my sinuses sometimes, they are still worth stopping to smell. This is my life. My kids will only be young once. I need to slow down and enjoy it, experience it, and appreciate it.

My goal is to make the pause button an annual event. My husband is worth it. My kids are worth it. My life is worth it.

I am worth it.


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