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Guest Post: Learn to Shut Up Your Dream Poopers

in Random Musings

Today’s guest post comes from best selling author Barbara Conelli. Everyone who comments will receive a downloadable giftbag, and one lucky winner will receive a free t-shirt! Don’t miss out! Comment below. If you have ever dreamed of writing a book or accomplishing any huge goal, I think you will find this inspiring.

Learn to Shut Up Your Dream Poopers

Dream Pooper is a double-faced creature who often sounds concerned and tries to convince you she acts in your best interest. (“Are you sure this is good for you? You should be cautious. Life’s tough. Be happy with what you have and play it safe. There are kids in Somalia dying of hunger and you’re frivolous enough to write a book? How selfish of you! Who do you think you are?”)

In reality, Dream Pooper is driven by the ego mind, she’s fearful, doubtful, resentful, and whatever -ful you can come up with. People with a vision scare her to death because should their vision, God forbid, become a reality, it would burst her can’t-be-done bubble. She will do anything to talk you out of your dream, and she’s good at it. Her words hurt, sting, bite and stab. She realizes the fragility of early dream weaving, and her malicious verbal weapons will reduce your wispy web of dreams to ashes – if you let her, of course. And unless you’re familiar with Dream Pooper’s hideous scheming, you might eventually give in.

I’m a reformed approval-addict, which means, in phase one, Dream Poopers used to have a real party when pooping on my dreams, as it was pretty easy for them to turn me against myself. Later, in phase two, as I was getting stronger, I tried defeating Dream Poopers with reasonable arguments. The only result was I wore myself down while Dream Pooper kept repeating her crap parrot-fashion.

Today, I find myself in stage three (with occasional relapses), where my dreams are sacred and no Dream Pooper has the power to degrade them. Actually, Dream Poopers don’t even get my attention because listening to them is a waste of energy that can be used to create something meaningful.

Therefore, the only thing you need to know to handle Dream Poopers in your life is this:

Step one: Ignore them. (Walk out of the conversation. Hang up. Change your Skype status to invisible. Unfriend them on Facebook. Change your name. Move to Australia. Whatever works for you.)

Step two: Ask Mr. Einstein for support. This is what he’ll say:

“Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.”

Remember, Dream Poopers have no power over you, unless you choose to listen to them. It’s up to you. Happy Dream-Pooper-free writing!

About the author

Barbara Conelli is an internationally published bestselling author, seasoned travel writer specializing in Italy, and Chiquenist on the mission to bring Fantastic Fearless Feminine Fun into women’s lives. In her charming, delightful and humorous Chique Books filled with Italian passion, Barb invites women to explore Italy from the comfort of their home with elegance, grace and style, encouraging them to live their own Dolce Vita no matter where they are in the world.

About the Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore

Fascinating, enthralling and seductive travel and life tales about unexpected encounters with the capricious, unpredictable and extravagant city of Milan, its glamorous feminine secrets, the everyday magic of its dreamy streets, the passionate romance of its elegant hideaways, and the sweet Italian art of delightfully falling in love with your life wherever you go.

Alyssa June 30, 2012 at 6:20 am

I have had many in my life, and if I’m honest I’ve been probably the biggest one to myself, but I think I am finally getting mostly past that to discover my own potential and realize that getting the things I want out of life really does contribute to my happiness and the collective happiness of my family. It’s worth it to fight for your dreams.

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