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The art of loving life

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Chique Secrets Dolce of Amore

My 4-year-old amazes me. He is full of dances and songs for every occasion from wiping his bottom to velcroing his shoe “all bys myself” to his favorite show coming on TV. Even on my worst days, his laughter will make me smile. He has an art to loving his life, and it is contagious.

Life has a tendency to rob us of that innocence. Broken hearts, lost dreams, and family pains all wear on us over time. I have so been there! But somehow, about 3 years ago, that changed for me. I am now back to loving my life as much as my 4-year-old loves his.

Elements to the art of loving life

  • At 35 years old, I am over 100 pounds lighter than I was two years ago. Sure, my pants are smaller and I am much better at football and tag than I used to be, but the love of life is not found on a scale.
  • My kids bring me great joy as I watch them grow and discover their passions, but that is only an external stimulant to joy. They aren’t where the love for my life starts.
  • I am happily married to my best friend whom I met in Kindergarten, started dating in high school, and with whom I will celebrate 15 years of marital bliss next month. But he’s not the center of my love for life.
  • I have found success in publishing both in print and online including releasing my first book of short stories. But my love for life goes deeper than career success.

The secret element to the art

I believe that all of us are designed with a specific purpose or destiny in mind. Several years ago I decided to walk away from the boxes people had put me into in an effort to discover what my personal destiny was. When I got to the point where I could lie down in the quiet of my bed at night and know that I am making strides to fulfilling my destiny on a daily basis; that is when I discovered that the art to loving life is in enjoying the journey that takes us from where we are to where we are destined to be. When we save all of our celebration for crossing the finish line, we neglect to enjoy the daily victories that get us there.

The blurb

Barbara Conelli

I wrote today’s post as part of the WOW-Women on Writing’s “The Art of Loving Your Life” Blanket Tour celebrating the release of Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore by Barbara Conelli (

Barbara Conelli is an internationally published bestselling author, seasoned travel writer specializing in Italy. In her charming, delightful and humorous Chique Books filled with Italian passion, Barb invites women to explore Italy from the comfort of their home with elegance, grace and style, encouraging them to live their own Dolce Vita no matter where they are in the world.

Her latest book, Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore offers an intimate view into the unpredictable and extravagant city of Milan, its glamorous feminine secrets, the everyday magic of its dreamy streets, the passionate romance of its elegant hideaways, and the sweet Italian art of delightfully falling in love with your life wherever you go.

If you comment on today’s post on this blog or any of the others participating in The Art of Loving Your Life tour, you’ll be entered to win a signed copy of Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore!

To read Barbara’s post about loving life and view a list of other blogs participating in The Art of Loving Your Life tour please visit The Muffin.

Joy Jeter June 18, 2012 at 9:50 am

This struck a very personal chord in me Jamie.Without ”sharing’ all I wil just say for the last three years I’ve been hanging on to things the best I could.Although many times I couldn’t think of what my destiny was I still wake up with a spirit of fresh mercies & grace & that same happy spry spirit of thank you lord for the excitement of life.When there are many burdens of finance,worry,etc,sometimes all you can do us keep going.Thank you for having such a beautiful gift of expressing exactly how I feel!

Jean Oram June 19, 2012 at 1:28 pm

That’s awesome! I love to hear about women marching to the beat of their own drum. And kudos on the weight loss. Wow! That is an accomplishment in itself.

Barbara Conelli June 22, 2012 at 11:30 am

Thank you very much for participating in my book tour, and for this wonderful, inspiring post. I love what you say about walking away from the boxes people put us into – it takes courage but it’s definitely worth it. Have a Chique day, and happy writing! 🙂

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